Sunday, May 11, 2008

Things are getting started

Sorry I've been out of touch. I was away on a business trip and didn't have much going on fertility wise.

Thank you for all of the comments on my bio-mom/egg donor question. I think I will use the term egg donor - that's what she is. She has no intention of having anything to do with a child we may conceive with her egg. The child will be nourished and developed in my womb. She is generously donating her egg to us and for that, we are forever grateful. Too bad my eggs are crap - I wish I could return the favor to someone. I'll find some way to pay it forward.

I think the longer I sit with this donor egg idea, the more I am comfortable with it. I told my mother and she was really excited for us. I wasn't sure how she would handle it but she was immediately supportive. She thought we had given up on having a child since I hadn't said anything about it since our last failed IUI in January. It was nice to have her support. I have now told 4 people about it irl and everyone has been supportive. I appreciate their support.

On the fertility front, our $5,000 down payment has been paid. Ouch. That certainly made it seem real. We have the number of the attorney we have to see to sign a bunch of paperwork regarding the donated eggs. And I have started birth control pills. The egg donor has gone in for her initial blood work and we should get things rolling in early June. I will start taking lupron (injection) by the end of May.

This is really happening.

I've been weaning myself off of caffeine. I shouldn't have let myself get back on it but I thought it may be a few more months before all this went down. I'll be off it by the end of the week. I'm someone who gets headaches when I withdraw from caffeine - I have to wean myself from the cup of half decaf in the morning and a diet soda in the afternoon.

I should have my first beta by the 4th of July. Would be nice if there were two reasons to celebrate...

14 comments:

Rebeccah said...

Oh, that's so exciting! I think the timing of fireworks day couldn't be a better sign. Will be keeping everything crossed and thinking many good thoughts for you.

West Coast Diva said...

Just make sure that you select a clinic with at least a 70% live birth rate -- and yes you are right. The egg donor is indeed an egg donor and not a mother in any shape of the word. She's donating a cell to you which you are compensating her for.

There's a super support group for egg donation called MVED (Mothers Via Egg Donation) It can be found : http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/MVED/ there is also parentsviaeggdonation.org another great group to help you along in the process. As it can be bloody overwhelming. My son is going on 8, I had him via egg donation in 2000. Best thing that happened to me ever:) I love him so much I forget to breathe!

Best of luck!

Wordgirl said...

That is SOOO exciting.

My thoughts are with you,

Pam

Meghan said...

Glad the ball is rolling and things are moving forward!

Roni said...

Congratulations on moving ahead! This is a wonderful and rewarding journey.

Super O said...

Welcome back. I can hear the excitement back in your voice. That's so great that you have a supportive mom too!

Bee Cee said...

Just stumbled across your blog and I've got donor treatment at the back of my mind, so its been really helpful reading your posts.

Good luck with the cycle, hope the 4th of July is a very special day for you.

Jennifer said...

Congrats on getting started - the 4th is a great day for a beta!!!

Meg said...

Hi - found you thru "my egg journey". I've just finished a cycle of IVF with DE, my second beta seems to be going up instead of down and my uterus hasn't fallen out. Being kind of cautious, can you tell? :) I guess at this point, I don't have that much to share - if this works it'll be my first child, and I haven't even seen an u/s yet. But I know already that I won't regret this one bit. Good luck to you - keep your chin up!

Meg said...

Hi - found you thru "my egg journey". I've just finished a cycle of IVF with DE, my second beta seems to be going up instead of down and my uterus hasn't fallen out. Being kind of cautious, can you tell? :) I guess at this point, I don't have that much to share - if this works it'll be my first child, and I haven't even seen an u/s yet. But I know already that I won't regret this one bit. Good luck to you - keep your chin up!

moo said...

hi, I have a a beautiful daughter after cycling with an ED (that is the short version!). It is all so worth it. Stay strong.

Mouq said...

One thing to consider with the legal paperwork - do you have the legal right to donate any unused embryos or would you have to ask the donor. You are most likely not thinking this far forward but it's something that is usually documented.

Mrs. B said...

Thanks for the advice on the shots. I really, really hope I can do them but I always used to say that if I ever got diabetes I would die b/c I couldn't do the darn shots. It's good to know someone else was squeamish at first and was the able to do it.

Oh and I love the timing you've got. Beau proposed on the 4th of July so I think it is a good luck sign too.

~Carrie said...

Hey there! June will be here before you know it - you must be so excited. I'm so happy things are finally moving along for you.

I hear you on the caffeine (I get headaches too)... it's a very good idea to wearn off slowly. I was bad and didn't cut it out completely until ET. (my acupuncturist scolded me!) Speaking of acupuncture, do you still go for any treatments? (I think you did a while back?)